Okay, so what I’m about to say might be offensive towards HaeHyuk shippers, so let’s just put it out there that I’m the one saying this, not the blog. Me. Admin Amy. Very opinionated Admin Amy.
The thing with HaeHyuk shippers (for the most part) is that they want Donghae to be the man in the relationship and Hyukjae the girl. And when I say Hyukjae is the girl, I mean it. Like, I read some HaeHyuk fics and get kind of mad at the fact that they portray Hyukjae as this gentle little creature who can’t get scratched or whatever. It’s infuriating.
So for these shippers, this is NOT about what is happening in that one portion of their lives portrayed in the fic — this is what is happening for their ENTIRE relationships. They have, for the most part, replaced Hyukjae’s role as a male who can dominate at least once in a while into, well, basically a girl with a penis who can’t take control of shit.
And that is, essentially, why HaeHyuk shippers prefer HaeHyuk fics. Because Donghae must be the “man” and Hyukjae must be the “woman.” And they don’t mean to be offensive — this is just how they feel like it should work. Again, they don’t mean offense, but this is how they’ve come to view the pairing. (Preferences again.)
Anyway, HaeHyuk shippers, feel free to argue if you prefer HaeHyuk for another reason. This is just what I’ve picked up from the hardcore HaeHyuk shippers I’ve seen so far, and the many fics I’ve read THAT INVOLVE SMUT. If they do not involve smut, I am most likely NOT talking about them. There are HaeHyuk fics that are nice and just have Donghae as the slightly manlier one — those are fine, I like those.
In reality, interchangeable tops makes a lot of sense. But to some fic-goers… they’d rather not think about that, I guess. After all, like I said, realistic fics can only be so realistic as they are still fiction. And in fiction, people write what they prefer, not always reality.
You can probably find a link to her writing on her tumblr, but I found it anyway (or what I think is the one she’s talking about) here on her AFF ^^ She’s a good writer, too!
Ramblings are my specialty lol I ramble all the time ^^
I’ll probably delete this soon too to avoid hurting any HaeHyuk shippers gah.
— Admin Amy
EDIT:
I agree! Definitely, definitely agree! The author put a lot of consideration in making everything as realistic as possible ;; One of the best fanfics out there.
;_; thank you, although some are sure to argue. I dunno, I just put a lot of thought into this stuff without meaning to LOL It just happens. I’m really into analyzing stuff so long as it’s not in lit class apparently. Yes, these debates are fun :) I hope more people join in sometime (if others aren’t bothered by it ;o;).
- strawberrymyeolchi said: there’s one particularly awful “story” on AFF which is “proof” of haehyuk over hyukhae based on shit like their star signs or something. it’s ridiculous and it’s offensive to call EITHER one of them a girl, imo. and worse to imply that girly = weak.
Oh my gosh someone tried to pull some bs reasoning with the stars as to who should top. Just to see who could top. I just. Why? It’s offensive because they’re men who like men, not men who want to be girls to like men.
I seriously think some fanfic writers completely forget that they’re writing about gay pairings. Not hetero pairings with male names and body parts, but actual gay pairings. They need to understand that gay men do not act like women.
Girly=weak=just no honestly. That’s disgusting as well >.<